When we look at patterns in relationships, it is often not just about what is happening in the present moment. It is about what has been learned over time, particularly in early relationships where we first experienced connection.

Many people think people pleasing simply means being kind, helpful, or caring. And of course, kindness is a beautiful quality.

One of the hardest things many trauma survivors carry is the question, “Why did I respond like that?” I hear this so often in the therapy room.