Most of us are not taught how to have boundaries. We are taught how to be good. How to be polite. How to be easy to deal with. How to not upset anyone.

Some people move through the world with an emotional openness that others simply do not experience. They feel the room before they enter it.

So much of the way we love as adults began long before we were old enough to notice it. The way we reach for people, the way we pull back, the way we try to manage our needs quietly, so we don’t feel like a burden.